Whoremongers and Whores Amongst Us
by Pimp Preacher.com
It is only fitting that if we as the Body of Christ aggressively address the issues concerning the “Whoremongers” within our pulpits that we also deal with the issue of the “Whores Amongst Us.”
Once she has positioned herself in direct view of his roaming eyes, Ms. Pretty can now execute the second phase of her strategy which I will now refer to as the “Spiritual Acquaintance.”
A spiritual acquaintance is someone who feels that they have some sort of mutual spiritual connection with the Pastor that separates them from the rest of the members. This elitist mindset succumbs to delusions of grandeur at the exact moment he confides in her about confidential information regarding church affairs. His confidence becomes her ticket out of the pews of ordinary membership into the realm of his exclusive counsel. Consequently, he now shares intricate details with her alone, details not shared with anyone else within the congregation.
This spiritual acquaintance is often appointed to Chair certain Boards or Committees because she knows the heart and the intentions of the Pastor. This spiritual acquaintance is often delegated to handle tasks normally reserved for the Pastor’s Wife or the Assistant Pastor, but she is preferred by him because of her special skill set. This particular woman speaks to him through her eye contact, voice tone, accessibility, and body motion which leads to the next phase in their relationship; Spiritual Sex.
Spiritual sex is a gradual build up often starting with long conversations and Facebook chats. During this phase she makes him aware that if he would like to have her, then she is willing and ready. These conversations leave no doubt of her intentions to conquer his will power, to mute that voice in his head that says “I’m married, and she is a member of my congregation.”
In typical fashion he eventually meets with her for lunch, which leads to a long drive to a discreet hotel reserved with a fake name. He has now allowed himself to not only violate the sanctity of his marriage, diluted the virtuosity of his leadership, but has now committed 3 sins in this one act.
A concubine has been described as generally a woman in an ongoing, marriage-like relationship with a man, whom she cannot marry for a specific reason. The reason may be because she is of lower social rank than the man (including slave status) or because the man is already married. Generally, only men of high economic and social status have concubines. Many historical rulers maintained concubines as well as wives. Webster defines a Concubine as:
Definition of CONCUBINE : a woman with whom a man cohabits without being married: as a :
One having a recognized social status in a household below that of a wife - : MISTRESS.
What many people fail to realize about Pastor Sex Scandals is more often than not they’re never forced relationships. Sex between a pastor and fellow members takes on a different dimension than a work place relationship in which the woman feels that she must have sex in order to continue her career path. The sex between a pastor and his spiritual acquaintance is mutual, calculating, and sustainable for a long period of time due to her compliant demeanor.
As willing as she is to acquire a special portion of him, he is also equally willing to enjoy her discreetness. In many cases she sits directly behind his wife in the congregation so that he can look in her direction while preaching without drawing attention to his real focus. She waits for him, she anticipate his needs, wants, and desires while he grooms her in how to please him far beyond the gifts of his wife.
He remains guilty as charged and she remains an accessory to sin in a relationship that will continue until one of them slips up. Now the congregation has all of the ingredients needed for a Gumbo of Church Scandal.
Add 2 Cups of Sin
Typically the spiritual concubine controls the release of the scandal, but the pastor has such a false sense of security that he is totally oblivious. Just like a White House staffer, she will plant little verses of their relationship the moment she feels him trying to pull away in any form or fashion. In the true meaning of “easier to get into but harder to get out” she is not ready or willing to go back to being just an ordinary member of the congregation.
The real power she has over him during this saga is even greater than the power his wife received during their nuptials, his reputation and as true man of God is now in her hands to caress or to crush. This is when she places a higher demand on his time and this period also marks the point in his marriage where the lying begins. It is at this moment when she will no longer mandate that he wear a condom, thus allowing the enviable to happen, the baby!
As members of a congregation, we only hear about a sex scandal involving our Pastor once there is a child involved, but just like any trimester, the origins took place much earlier. The baby conceived out of a scandalous affair is the irrefutable evidence, the elephant sitting on the second pew that everyone whispers about. The child of the spiritual concubine is treated just like the slave child of a King, only partially acknowledged.
Controlling The Hound
Being a leader is often a very lonely position despite the large amount of people surrounding you. This is the reason that if you are the Pastor of a church, your relationship and friendship with your wife has to be more than just an academy award winning performance. Pastors repeatedly fall for the same traps and holes to such a degree that it has become very difficult to feel sorry for them when it all comes crashing down. Somewhere in-between all of the hand claps of praise and the power of getting an entire room of people to “turn to their neighbor” the Pastor started to feel as if he could have anything he wanted without consequence.
The baby conceived out of an affair with his spiritual concubine is only a symptom of a greater illness, Greed.
As a Pastor you cannot “name it and claim it” when it comes to the women in your congregation. In this role as Husband and Pastor you can only have one woman despite the fact that your over indulgent lifestyle contradicts that concept.
In your role as Pastor you need to understand that there will always be a few women who may allow their adornment of your Calling to slide into a weird sexual attraction, but you are in fact the shepherd of the sheep which means that you cannot get seduced by the sheep.
So from this point forward Mr. Pastor we will no longer allow you to hide behind the pre-rehearsed response that “God knows my Heart.” From this point forward your actions on and off the stage will have to align with the scriptures you recite each and every Sunday. From this point forward you will convert her from just another spiritual concubine to a virtuous woman of God, instead of allowing yourself to get converted into a typical whoremonger.
Safe Guard Your Mind
If you have never heard it before then let me be the first to tell you that all smiles are not real smiles. As Pastor you have to become accustomed to your role without becoming narcissistic. You have to become accustomed to the spotlight, without upstaging Christ. As a legitimate Pastor you can no longer use the name of Jesus to obtain WPW = Wealth, Power, and Women.
As Pastor you will have to gain a higher level of self-control and focus because your actual exposure could also lead to your demise. As pastor you will have to guard your mind from thoughts that like - no one will know, wouldn’t it be nice to feel her, and if she doesn’t scream then I will not holler.
At your weakest moment Mr. Pastor as you’re considering having sex with one of your members, I would like for you to ask yourself the following questions.
What will I get from this woman that I cannot get from my wife? If this woman has made suggestions to you that has intrigued or peaked your curiosity then that too is a good area of focus for your marriage. What has you excited is not the fact that the new woman can do something unique; she is simply an unfamiliar woman. Don’t mistake unfamiliar for better, challenge your marriage to be more, do more, and produce more.
How much will this hotel room really cost me? The room you have booked in order to cheat on your wife will cost you more than $169 reservation charge. I know you’re very familiar with scriptures being they are the primary tool of your trade but allow me to reintroduce you to Mathew 6:24 –“No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.” Now replace the word “Masters” with “Women.” Enough Said!
Am I being Tested? Imagine the amount of respect that this young woman will have for you if you pointed her to God at this moment of weakness. If you would dare to be honest with her and inform her that she is only infatuated with your Avatar, the outer shell of a man, than that acknowledgement would usher in a greater conversation about God. Redirect her in prayer and demand that she remain focused on God’s purpose for her life. The best part is you can do this without destroying the her, but instead using this as a teachable moment in her Christian walk. Imagine how much both of you would benefit from passing this test with flying colors.
Getting married, answering your call, and preaching the Gospel was the easy part, the challenge is remaining faithful to the wife that God has blessed you to hold. Your wife can give you whatever was promised to you by another woman, but you have to first resist the other woman and GO HOME to your gift from God.
If you are entangled in a triangle then I ask that you do the following:
1. Repent for your sin
2. End the relationship immediately.
3. Ask your wife for forgiveness
4. Give your wife full disclosure of your sin
Trust me, it is better to go to your wife this way then to have the scandal FedEx to her with pictures. As a grown man I have spent 2/3 of my adult life as a Whoremonger, therefore I know how it feels to get caught up. The reason you have to pass this test is because there are other man like myself who respect your calling and need to see that it is possible to be a man of one woman.
I reach out to you in love and with wisdom acquired from failure. I pray that my personal experiences in "Church Sex" will provide you with encouragement to protect your marriage and your ministry. I leave you Pastor with the following verse to help you in this difficult moment in your life.
1 Peter 5:6-11, Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world. But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you. To him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.
By - A Black Man From New Orleans
Church Folk Revolution